Dear Parent,
I am sorry your child won't do their homework and their grade is now horrible. However, please don't blame me. Of course your child is very talented and is brilliant at everything they can do. How proud you must be of them! And yes, until this year, your child has always been an “A” student and you cannot understand why they could ever have such a low grade now.
I know it is tempting to blame the teacher. After all, your child has always excelled at everything and the only change has been me, so obviously, I must be the problem. Unfortunately, you are missing one MAJOR element here. Your child is entering adolescence.
Your child is becoming a teenager, and with this also comes hormones. Sadly, when children are pumped full of hormones, they only have blood flow to control one part of their body at a time. They lose their abilities to think rationally due to no fault of their own; they are basically toddlers stuck in adult bodies.
However, I have also heard your child has their own cell phone, with which they text message their friends into all hours of the night. Of course they wouldn’t go to sleep, they are basically toddlers and have no sense. And when you let them use their phones and you don't take it away when they wrack up thousands of minutes, what would keep them from continuing?
And of course you would buy them an XBOX live for their birthday; they obviously deserve it. But your child tells me they spend every minute they have, when they are not at practice, playing it. So obviously they are too tired to study.
Finally, I know your child is taking music lessons and is on the select sports team; obviously keeping your child well-rounded and allowing them to use their talents is good for them.
Unfortunately, with your child being so busy, what with the wracking up 3000 text messages per month, playing their XBOX live until 2am on a Wednesday and spending every other night at soccer practice and piano lessons, your child has little to no time for other activities, like sleeping and doing their homework.
They come to my class exhausted, often wearing the same outfit they had on the night before, as they are far too tired in the morning to shower or put on clean clothes. By the time they are finally awake and ready to learn, they are so hopped up on their lunch of Doritos, fruit snacks, soda, Oreos and a PB & J, they can barely sit still.
I know that parenting a teenager is one of the hardest thing any person has to do in their life. I have 58 of them, I understand. But I would really like to ask you a favor. Would you mind meeting me in the middle? I have to teach them every day, and like I said, I have a lot of them. So could you take over when they get home?
Could you make them do their homework BEFORE they play their video games? And since your child currently has such a horrible grade in all their classes (not just mine,) perhaps it is time to consider taking away some privileges, (like the games, or that select sports team, or their cell phone,) until they can prove they are responsible enough to handle their job as a student and a member of your family.
I know your child tells you that you are being unfair and that they hate you when you do actually make them suffer some consequences. It must be very hard to have your own child speak to you so horribly. However, please understand, it is much better they learn hard lessons now, when they are still very young, than when they are actually adults in society.
Thank you,
The teacher